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la_marquise ([personal profile] la_marquise) wrote2012-08-10 11:23 am
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Thought for the day: on public representation and the female body

I'm not a huge fan of sport, apart from tennis, and I'm more than capable of ignoring major sporting events while they're on. I'm also not at all a fan of competitions based on nationality, because to me, it seems they encourage all the worst forms of nationalism, jingoism and stupidity. In some cases, they fan conflict and hatred. There was a discussion of the skills and physical talents needed by sprinters last night on the BBC that I found disturbing, creepy and offensive, because it bordered on racial stereotyping, this time with 'genetics' as an excuse. I am going to write to them about this.

However, my mother came to stay with us last weekend, and she does like to watch the Olympics. So, while she was here, we spent a fair amount of time doing so, particularly track and field, which are her favourites. And I noticed something.

I'm feeling better than I have in years about my body. I'm not particularly fit, I'm not fashionably thin, I'm not pretty. But for the last week or so, I've felt at home in this too-tall, not-thing-enough, not-toned enough, not-young enough (all my usual mantras) body. It *works*. My legs can run -- not fast, but they do it happily. I can bend and reach, twist, turn and shape, I can pick up things and move them and make them, and it's all good. I feel normal.

It's down to all those fantastic women who I see using their talented bodies on the television, all those runners and shot-putters, tennis players, rowers, weight lifters, swimmers, riders, boxers, discus and hammer throwers. They are tall and short, they have broad shoulders or wide hips, they are large and small, they have long legs and short legs, square faces, round ones, oval ones. They're all different. Most of them are un-made up, they show me their everyday faces. The ones who are made-up (with the exception of the gymnasts, who are the sole ones who worry me) are clearly doing so for their own reasons and amusements. They have long hair and short. They are of all races. But what they have in common is that they live openly, unashamedly (as far as I can tell) in their bodies. They aren't airbrushed or photo-shopped, dressed to 'hide figure faults' or posed for specific angles. They just are. And I'm loving it. I love all these bold, brave, talented, *real* women. They make me proud of them, of their skill and talent and courage. They make me happy to have a female body, even though mine is nowhere near as fit, as young. They make me feel that I'm normal, because variety is normal.

I want them on my screen every day, because I love this feeling. I know that in a few weeks it will be back to ideals and horrors -- perfect women and 'failed' ones who are too big, too plain, too old, not good enough. That depresses me. I want younger women than me to see the variety of other women, to see women who love who they are, women who are clearly talented and gifted and wonderful without the trailing back-stories that tv drama demands. I want us all to feel that it's all right to be us, in all our sizes and races, ages and shapes. Thank you, Ye Shiwen, Tirunesh DiBaba, Shelly-Ann Fraser Price, Jessica Ennis, Shara Proctor, Nicola Adams, Gabrielle Douglas, Sanya Richards-Ross, Nadzeya Ostapchuk, Joanna Rowsell, Zhou Lulu, and all your sister athletes. You are making the world a happier place for other women.
And I'm really looking forward to the paralympics and even more awesome women.

Skirt of the day: green silk wrap.

[identity profile] cmcmck.livejournal.com 2012-08-10 04:39 pm (UTC)(link)
I should perhaps explain that as our mutual friend is aware, I was born with a body and mind which did not exactly agree- PAIS in utero left me confused and in need of adjustments to said body via major surgery, hence having to fight to be who I am. you'd be amazed (or perhaps not) how many people take it upon themselves to know more about my body than I do!

Sport was used as an excuse to bully and abuse in a school for testosterone laden young males- was I ever in the wrong place! I've never really got on with it since.
Edited 2012-08-10 16:40 (UTC)

[identity profile] http://users.livejournal.com/la_marquise_de_/ 2012-08-10 04:56 pm (UTC)(link)
Sport is all too often used as a means of bullying and abuse and shaming. I think you're pretty amazing.

[identity profile] cmcmck.livejournal.com 2012-08-10 05:11 pm (UTC)(link)
Awww Blush!

Dunno about amazing, but at least I have a life worth the living which I doubted I ever would as a teen!

[identity profile] barbarienne.livejournal.com 2012-08-10 06:16 pm (UTC)(link)
I have definitely been privileged to be born in a body that generally works well with both itself and the brain/mind therein. My added privilege of being encouraged to foster that happy connection rather than merely tolerate it makes a very big difference, I think.

My experience of fighting to be who I am is obviously quite different from yours; the disagreement wasn't between my body and brain, but between my brain and what other people think my brain ought to be.

[identity profile] cmcmck.livejournal.com 2012-08-10 06:46 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh I got that bit as well! I'm a military historian and a lot of people back when I was at uni didn't think women should be military historians. Wrong!

Mind you, there were those at my primary school who didn't think I should be left handed..........

[identity profile] barbarienne.livejournal.com 2012-08-10 10:22 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeesh! I had an AWESOME ex-Marine as prof for my two Mil Hist classes, and he is why I ended up with a degree in history. I hear horror stories of people whose writing profs scoffed at their genre; meanwhile mine were super supportive of my SF/F.

I don't know what magical bubble I grew up in, but I'm so grateful for it, and full of admiration of people who had to fight much harder than I did.

[identity profile] cmcmck.livejournal.com 2012-08-13 07:34 am (UTC)(link)
'If you do oral history, you won't be able to relate to the vets' I was told. Um, I'm the daughter of a bootneck, married to the son and grandson of highland regiment infantrymen and was bought up and live in a barracks town in a house that belonged to a WW1 fighter ace and have a lot of squaddies and squaddies' partners as friends. I know what they call 'the bullshit' pretty well.

As it happens, vets and I get on like a house on fire! I have this thing called respect for their experiences. :o)

And I like tea..............