Ayaan Hirsi Ali certainly has published some very strong condemnations of this. I don't know enough to know how accurate she is, but it is disturbing. And yes, the effect on the men, and the difficulty it presents them with must be immense.
There was a short piece in yesterday's Grauniad about a man in Pakistan who has been doing wonderful work for women's health in the face of cultural practice: http://www.guardian.co.uk/achievementsaward/guardian-international-development-achievement-award-nominees?INTCMP=SRCH I find men like him, in all cultures, hugely heartening.