Kari, you are a person. F*ck anyone who makes you think you are not. They are liars and thieves. Don't let them get away with stealing your personhood. We all see the world in different ways, and I guess I've been lucky. My chosen career was librarianship. There were forty-five women on our college course and five men. I then worked in public libraries where women outnumbered men. I ran my own department. My immediate boss was a woman, and when the chief librarian (man) retired, she got his job. I started working for myself when I had kids and I haven't had a boss since then. I am blessed with a distinct lack of f*cks when it comes to anyone who tries to belittle me. Maybe I have small woman syndrome. We go in low and hard when we need to. Maybe it wasn't always like that, but I have learned to build a thick skin over the years. Happy to offer you a skin transplant. Just call me up whenever you need to. <>