My sole serious skiing injury wasn't my fault -- I was on a rope drag and the person in front fell, taking the rope with him. The sudden strong pull that caused through the rope craxked my rib. This did not help with my sense of needing to be absolutely safe from evberyone else around me!
I don't expect to grasp that inner perfecgt book, but I do wish I could break free of feeling that obligation to be perfect for the benefit of others.